Are you and your partner stuck in cycles of conflict, feeling disconnected despite being together? Do conversations turn into arguments, leaving you both feeling unheard and alone? Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in Los Angeles can help you break free from these patterns and rediscover the emotional connection that brought you together.
Los Angeles EFT Therapy
Meet your Los Angeles EFT therapist
Gayane Aramyan, LMFT
My approach to EFT therapy combines my professional training with my personal understanding of relationships. As someone who married my high school sweetheart and has navigated the complexities of marriage and parenthood, I bring both clinical expertise and lived experience to our work together. I believe that beneath every conflict lies a deeper longing for connection, and I'm passionate about helping couples uncover and express those vulnerable emotions that can transform their relationship.
Credentials: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), Gottman Method Level 1-Trained
Clientele: Adults & couples
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
Virtual therapy: Yes
What to expect from the EFT process
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DE-ESCALATION
We'll work together to identify the negative cycles that keep you stuck—the pursue-withdraw dance, the criticism-defensiveness cycle, or whatever unique pattern has developed in your relationship. We'll also explore the underlying emotions and attachment fears that drive these patterns, creating awareness of how these cycles create distress for both partners.
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RESTRUCTURING INTERACTIONS
This is where the deeper work happens. We'll access and express the vulnerable emotions beneath the conflict—fear, sadness, longing for connection. You'll learn to share these deeper feelings with your partner and respond to each other from a place of empathy rather than defensiveness, creating new positive cycles of connection.
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CONSOLIDATION & INTEGRATION
We'll solidify these new patterns of emotional connection and help you develop tools to maintain your secure bond. You'll practice these new ways of reaching for each other and learn to navigate future challenges from this stronger foundation, ensuring the changes last beyond therapy.
Common reasons couples seek EFT
Feeling emotionally disconnected from their partner
Stuck in repetitive arguments and conflict cycles
Difficulty communicating needs without triggering defensiveness
Recovering from infidelity or breaches of trust
Navigating major life transitions (like parenthood, career changes, loss)
Struggling with intimacy and physical connection
One partner pursues while the other withdraws
Feeling like roommates rather than romantic partners
Pre-marital counseling to strengthen the relationship foundation
Rebuilding after separation or near-divorce
FAQs about EFT therapy
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Yes, EFT is a highly effective approach to couples therapy—I’ve seen it firsthand with my clients. The approach works because it addresses the underlying attachment needs that drive relationship dynamics, creating lasting change rather than just temporary fixes.
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EFT is particularly effective for couples who feel stuck in negative cycles but still care about each other. If you find yourselves having the same arguments repeatedly, feeling emotionally disconnected, or struggling to communicate without triggering each other's defenses, EFT can help. It's also beneficial for couples dealing with trust issues, life transitions, or those who simply want to strengthen their emotional bond and intimacy.
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Research shows that most couples (around 70%) will be symptom-free by the end of therapy. These results tend to be stable over time, meaning that couples can maintain their improvements for years after completing treatment.
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The therapeutic relationship is crucial to success in EFT. During our free consultation, we'll discuss your goals and my approach to see if we connect well. I work best with couples who are committed to the process, willing to be vulnerable, and genuinely care about improving their relationship. My experience as a wife and mother, combined with my professional training, allows me to understand relationship challenges from both personal and clinical perspectives. If this resonates with you, we could be a great match.
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Start by filling out my brief online form to schedule a free 15-minute consultation where we'll discuss your relationship goals and concerns. If we're a good fit, we'll schedule your first session and let this important work begin.